Are you the person you want to be, or do you feel you could be more and do more, but are not quite sure where to start?
I remember an incredibly powerful session that was part of my coaching training when we were discussing Dr Eric Berne’s Transactional Analysis model (Parent, Adult, Child Ego States) and Life Scripts. The concept being that by the approximate age of 7 you have unconsciously written your Life Script with memories and experiences that have been absorbed into your unconscious mind. It has a beginning, a middle and an end. It has heroes, heroines, villains and stooges and walk-on characters. It has a main theme and sub-plots.
Without awareness of that script you’ve programmed into your unconscious mind, where all your habits and behaviour are stored, you will live out your script and seek confirmatory evidence that your script was right.
I remember a powerful session on a self development course I attended, when our tutor asked us to consider what our family moto was when we were growing up. I was at the far end of the table in this session and so had the longest time to think about my answer, but it wasn’t until it was my turn to speak that I found myself saying “stay safe, don’t take any risks.” I remember a huge sense of “oh…that makes sense” filling my whole body. Like any loving parent, my Mum had wanted to keep her children safe and unconsciously that sense of safety was what I sought in all areas of my life.
But safety doesn’t:
- Push you beyond the limits of what you thought was possible.
- Force you to try new things and realise you can do them and get better at them if you keep practising.
- Allow you make mistakes and build your confidence and resilience by learning from your mistakes and trying again.
And safety certainly doesn’t give you that huge sense of achievement when you’ve worked your butt off and succeeded at something that really means something to you.
The Law of Conservation of Energy says energy can be displaced but can never be destroyed. There is necessary polarity in all self-regulating systems to form energy – energy can be transferred from one opposite to the other.
There wouldn’t be night without day, there wouldn’t be hot without cold and there wouldn’t be conscious without unconscious. The energy in the unconscious mind increases if the energy in the conscious mind decreases and vice versa.
In my case the energy that had accumulated in my unconscious mind, by keeping my foot on the brake and my potential buried and untapped into, had crashed through my safety defense barriers into consciousness and with it a whole lot of possibilities and a whole lot of fear.
We all tend to have dominant behaviours which we habitually use whilst other behaviours are “in shadow” in the unconscious mind and unless we become aware of the hidden potential and behaviours and traits which we haven’t tapped into we are unlikely to discover what we are truly capable of.
Just as a team needs a combination of different behaviours within it to work effectively to complement each other’s traits and skills, we, as individuals need to use our whole personality to achieve “wholeness” or self-realisation.
Clarity4D colour personality profiling can help you tap into your hidden potential and help you discover the person you were always meant to be.
Are you ready to let go of your fears, remove the barriers that are holding you stuck and tap into your hidden potential? If so please do come and join us on the first Clarity4D programme of 2017. ….. Sarah Veall